Sunday, November 04, 2007
Pool of a Mother's Tears
This is the start of my November page for BJP. This page is a memorial to my son who passed away in 1979 and my daughter who died 13 1/2 years ago. My daughter's birthday is the 18th. This month is always very difficult for me and I decided to once again make something positive out of a negative. I'm hoping working on this page will allow me to let go of some of my sadness and sorrow. It never hurts to try. This dichroic cab reminded me of a pool, thus the name. 
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A lovely start for a difficult tribute, Arline. You will be in my thoughts this whole month long. I hope you find much peace in making this page . . .
Kathy V in NM
Thanks Kathy. It's hard, but it's something I feel I must do. I'm tired of going down the tubes every November. I appreciate your kind thoughts.
Arline
Wonderful Arline ~ You are so wise to let your heart have this time and place, this sanctuary, to speak of it's grief through the work of your hands. I don't know how many beads it will take, but when your heart has said everything it has to say, the month of November will not frighten you so much. You will always be sad for your loss, but you will forgive them for leaving and you will be able to let them go.
Arline, I truly hope that you can work through your feelings with this page. More and more, I am coming to realise how embroidery (for me) can release some of the emotions buried deep within me. I am sure that this is true for any artist, whatever medium they use to express themselves. I think it is because the quiet and the mesmerising movement of our hands allows use time to reflect.
Grief is a spiteful emotion, even when you think it is loosening its grip, it can turn around and strike you again, but you don’t have to remain in its grasp. Letting go of the anger, does not mean that you no longer miss your children; letting go of the pain, does not mean that you love them less. Let it all flow into your page and free yourself to remember your son and daughter with a joyful heart. Good luck.
CA
Oh boy Arline, this stirs up lots of emotion in me as well, not many things trigger it as profoundly as this piece has. I sit here and weep for the loss of loved ones.
I can't imagine losing a child, let alone two. You are a brave soul to open that door to your heart in an attempt to let some of the sadness and sorrow go. A courageous endeavor for sure - my hats off to you!
I cannot think of a better way to work through your grief than by beading. Think of each bead taking away some of your grief, and replacing it with love and peace. I wish for you the healing that can come through working with your hands. I will remember you in my meditations and prayers. I cannot imagine losing a child!
Arline you words and the start of this page have touched a very deep place in me. I recognize and admire your determination. It's quite beautiful as well as incredibly courageous.
In one of the shops in Arcata, Ca. they had a altar of sorts set up on a table to honor the dead or deceased relatives. It seems that November is the traditional time that we should all be remembering our ancestors and what they mean to us.
I will be remembering you this month. One thing that I used to do in a difficult time was to write down one thing every day to be thinkful for that day. I remember seeing a beautiful blue bird and thinking that was a gift from God to me. Start replacing your tears with thanksgiving...even though you don't feel like it. You don't have to feel like it to do it. Sometimes our actions influence our feelings.
Tears are also good as the wash and cleanse. So be thankful for them as well.
Bless you,
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